How to plan a stress-free and happy wedding day

Some useful advice on ways to plan a stress-free and happy wedding day.

You may not need (or want) all of these suggestions, but they’re all pretty good.

You might want to have classic cars, balloons, a bubble machine, confetti, butterflies, and doves….  And it’s a lovely idea to have six different locations for your photos or have all your guests walk for two kilometres down a pretty country lane to your amazing ceremony location but, let’s be real. The best way to have a stress-free wedding is to keep it simple and relaxed. There’s plenty of room for any unique style in simplicity. Really, your wedding day is about your love for each other and sharing that with friends. Your guests may have been to many weddings and we bet that they ones they remember and enjoyed the most are the relaxed, effortless, oozing with love and laughter weddings that express your personal style. You probably want to spend as much time with your guests as possible. You also want to worry about the important things (eg: champagne). Not whether you’ve got enough time to go to the bathroom before the location photos!


Kathryn+Rob's Wedding photos at The Landing in Masterton, Wairarapa. NZ. Photographs by Jenny Siaosi.


1. Plan ahead.
Micro managing everything on your wedding day is not cool. It will stress you out and soon the day will be over and you’ll wonder where it went. Being relaxed slows time down and is way more enjoyable! (pretty sure that’s a scientific fact).
Have everything planned before the day and leave nothing to guess work. If you’re a casual kinda couple and don’t want a rehearsal go with that. But we also recommend you organise the hell out of the day and then enjoy and relax, not the other way around.

2. Delegate.
Even if you are a self-confessed control freak, don’t think you can do everything yourself. You can’t, and shouldn’t have to. If organisation and reliability is not in your best mate/ brides maid/ groomsmen’s nature. Find someone who does have those attributes to help with the planning and bits and pieces on the day, so they can say “Leave it to me”.  And then of course, you’re just going to have to trust them!

3. Hire a wedding planner.
Most people don’t really understand what they do and what value they can add to your day. Even if you think you can’t afford one, do yourself a favour and just contact one and have a chat. You’ll be amazed at how they can make your day, and the lead up to it, way better than you can. No offence.

4. Trust the professionals you have paid good money to.
There’s no point paying thousands of dollars if you’re going to do all the work for them. Of course you’ll have some awesome ideas to make your wedding ‘yours’ but might as well milk them for all  their expertise and experience. They may also be able to recommend florists, photographers, caters, cars and shoe shops, or others in the industry.  Weddings are their business. Making your wedding unique is yours.

5. Let your wedding photographer help schedule your day.
Do this early in your planning. They are highly skilled professionals who know everything about creating a schedule that will be relaxed yet get everything done. They can give advice on when you should have all your hair and makeup finished, when the reception should start, and how many locations to choose for your photos, and so much more.

6. Allow a little more time than you think.
Take the rush out of everything. Add a few minutes to each part of the day.

7. Give yourself a treat the day before the wedding.
Even if you’ve still got 96 things to do on your To Do list, go treat yourself. You’ll reset yourself so you can be fresh on the big day.

8. Find an organising tool.
If you can’t organise yourself out of a paper bag, then get help. There are many free task and To Do apps to make you look good.

9. Remember why you’re getting married.
When everything turns to custard and you’re wondering what the point is, turn to your partner and ask for a hug. That’s what the day is really about.

And after all that useful advice, here’s the plug!
One of the best things about having your wedding in the Wairarapa is that you won’t need to travel away from your ceremony/reception area to have your photos done. It also lends itself to a very relaxed environment (things are always more chilled in the country). Having so many gorgeous places to choose from that are close to each other means your guests won’t be too intoxicated by the time you are announced in as well. And, there are so many natural, stunning venues to choose from. Let alone the food and wine…
Lastly, get some Rescue Remedy – it’s a natural remedy to instantly take the stress away. A nice bottle of Wairarapa pinot gris or pinot noir also does wonders. 😉

Enjoy your planning, take care and we’ll see you in the beautiful Wairarapa soon!

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